EVERYONE at one point or another has been labeled with a word that hurt their feelings and made them feel lesser than.
Whether it had the intent to cause harm or not, these words have put you in a box and made you feel bad about yourself. It’s easy to let these words kill your mood and affect your self-confidence. To maintain positivity and peace, you need to be able to disarm the power that these labels hold and reclaim it for yourself! So, how do you go about doing that? Well…
First, understand that anyone who has ever called you a word that bothered you is an imperfect person. It’s a lot easier for individuals to realize and criticize the imperfections in others than to look inside themselves and deal with their faults.
Secondly, you need to understand that whatever words they call you mean different things to different people, and what one person deems as an unattractive trait can and will be something that someone else celebrates.
Thirdly, you need to analyze why this word or words hurt you. Is this something that was said to you with malicious intent? Is it a word that people have often used to describe you? Is it something you’re insecure about or don’t necessarily like about yourself? Even if it is, own it. Have the confidence to celebrate the good and bad about yourself. I’ll give you an example from my life:
Sensitive. For the longest time, that was my word. I’ve often been told that I am “too” sensitive, and it’s because I am. I am emotionally turbulent as my Myers Brigg’s personality type likes to remind me. For the longest time, being called sensitive or overly sensitive triggered me, it made me feel like I was out of control. I felt like I was weak and that I was lesser than. What I failed to understand was that the word sensitive does not mean any of those things. Depending on where you look, the definitions differ – but I think the best description of sensitivity is highly responsive. It’s true! In essence, if you are a sensitive person, you are just highly responsive.
There were definitely parts of my sensitivity and my personality that I did not like, which I have since learned from and worked to fix. I would often lash out at people when I was hurt or angry and speaking without thinking of the consequences. It took me quite some time, but I have learned to celebrate my sensitivity, and all that entails.
Sensitivity is often confused with dramatics (I’m also dramatic, but that’s not the point), but sensitivity is more synonymous with perception. For example, I am very observant to changes in behaviour. I’m super aware of emotions in the room and usually able to connect with people easily because of this. I am intrinsically conscious as well, and I often know exactly why I’m feeling what I’m feeling. With this knowledge, I can express those emotions and move on. I am never someone who feels plagued by a grudge or has the tension that comes from not expressing yourself. My sensitivity allows me to get it out & be done with it!
If you are also like me and feel as though your sensitivity is a negative trait, allow me to list 8 things that you be thankful for!
Sensitive people are:
- Sensitive people are in tune with themselves & commit to what they have to do. Allowing them to concentrate intensely on tasks at hand.
- Sensitive people are alert to subtle changes, which may be missed by others. Common examples include changes in moods/tones or non-verbal communication.
- Sensitive people excel at tasks requiring focus and attention to detail, which makes them more likely to notice small errors and avoid mistakes.
- Sensitive people can see and understand the greater meaning in movies and literature.
- Sensitive people are conscious of the world around them, meaning they are more likely to be aware of others and showcase proper manners. Or, more likely to notice when someone lacks manners.
- Being more dictated by emotion than the average person – sensitive people are more likely to react to positive outcomes and feelings. Thus, they are more likely to “chase” positivity and things that make them happy.
- Sensitive people are better at learning different languages! (More prone to process the information deeply and retain it.)
- Sensitive people think about how they think! Being more self-aware, they are better at self-reflection and why they react to something in a certain way.
Whatever the word is, think about it. Think of the connotation of the word, is this a word that could be secretly good? Like bossy – typically, this has a negative connotation – but I think bossy means dedicated, driven, and someone who demonstrates a natural vision. I want you to build up self-confidence, and part of that is choosing not to let the words that others label you hurt you. I’ve attached some more examples of positive affirmations that can come from negative labels below. I hope this post helps remind you of the true bad ass you are, and please never forget it.